Posts Tagged ‘emailing women online’

Taming “Needy” Behaviors.

You know I often talk about how important it is to avoid needy behavior when dealing with women online.  Well, here’s a letter from a subscriber that illustrates what can happen when you come on too strong:


I gotta problem. I met a woman a couple of weeks ago, and what a woman! She is just amazing and I cant get her out of my head. We have only met twice so far but spend over an hour on the phone very night. The first date was dinner at the yacht club and the 2nd we spent most of the night on the beach talking and drinking champagne. Sounds pretty good eh! So what’s the problem? Well, her ex really screwed her up. She’s not given me all the details yet but the result is that she has major trust issues and she shares she has ‘lost’ herself and does not know who she is or what she wants out of life anymore. She says she sees me as a great friend but does not know if she wants another relationship. Her last relationship was a marriage of about 20 years. I know it crazy but I think she is the one! How do I get her to break through her current negativity and realize that not all men will damage her in the way that her ex has.

My head is telling to give this woman a wide berth and look elsewhere but I just can’t because I would wonder what might have been if I stuck it out.

CY Australia

(My Response)


Ok, first of all… SLOW DOWN!

You need to take a deep breath here and give her some room to think.  I see two big problems here that stand out:

“but spend over an hour on the phone very night.”

It’s great that you two have a solid connection and that things seem to be going well, but you don’t want to be spending hours on the phone every night.

Are you familiar with attraction theory?  Things like giving her the gift of missing you and avoiding neediness?  When you come on too strong and suffocate women, it can lead to this…

“She says she sees me as a great friend but does not know if she wants another relationship.”

Bingo!  That tells you something right there.  She will rationalize it in her mind that she’s “not ready” to move onto someone else and her past relationship does factor in, but; you still need to do things right when it comes to building attraction.

Here’s what you should do… no contact for three days!  I mean no phone calls, texts, nothing!  See what happens.  I’m betting she will come to you.

Try and be patient and take things more slowly.  Let her know that you are still dating other women, which is what you should be doing anyway.

If she is “the one.”  You’ll know soon enough.


Remember, any time you display needy behavior, it lowers your value and a woman will thus become less attracted to you.

So what’s the answer??  Don’t do it!!  Always raise your perceived value in her eyes.  That’s the key to becoming successful with Online Dating.

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Poor Results With E-Harmony Cont…

So, I was mentioning before how I really think the Online Dating Site, E-Harmony basically SUCKS!

I talked about how you have to answer a gazillion BORING questions during the sign up process.  Also, they put up all sorts of cumbersome roadblocks on the way to actual communication!

You’ll find that women who don’t quite interest you will send you a list of questions during the “Guided Communication” phase.  Kind of STUPID as the idea is to get to emailing and in person dates as quickly as possible.

Now, the MAJOR flaw with E-Harmony… the so called “key dimensions of personality” matching system!

I find it hard to believe that with all the so called “science” behind this site, that what they came up with is essentially a process of matching guys with women with similar personalities to them.

As you know, I believe in dating a woman who is your opposite in personality type because it adds more spark to the relationship, and it assures that a couple will complement each other nicely.

What I got was a TON of matches who were WAY TO MUCH like me!  I would often log in to see nothing but attorneys, accountants, managers and other typical “Left-brainers” in my matches list.

And this was not what I wanted at all!

I like the outgoing, spontaneous artistic types and I was not getting matched with them!!

SUCKS!  And this is what I paid $50 per month for??  Not good!

I’ll talk about some more EH flaws in another post.

How about you?  What was your opinion of your E-Harmony matches?

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Poor Results With E-Harmony!

So I mentioned in a previous post that I had started using the Online Dating site; E-Harmony to meet women online.

I’m sure you’ve seen their ads and commercials all over the place with claims of people getting married and living happily ever after… all because they met on E-Harmony.

Well, I’m sure some have met through that site but I really doubt the legitimacy of a lot of those claims.

The problem is all the roadblocks this site puts up on the way to real, genuine online communication.

For starters, you have to answer HUNDREDS of questions before you even get your profile up!  This is the famed “key dimensions of personality” that are supposed to match you up with your “Perfect” match.  Well, if you have the patience to get through ALL THAT, then you’ve done pretty good.

Then, the confusion only grows as you try to email one of your “matches.”  You have to send your match a set of questions for them to answer.

This is rather ridiculous as the point of Online Dating is to start emailing as SOON AS POSSIBLE and then takes things OFFLINE soon after that.   But, I would later find out that you CAN actually email women immediately, but it’s not really clear on HOW to do this.

The problems with this website only get worse from there and I’ll continue with my thoughts in another post.

How about you???  If you’ve used E-Harmony, how has your experience been?

BTW, if you found this article helpful, then you REALLY need to check out my TOP SECRET Online Dating Profile.  My email inbox was literally FLOODED with emails within MINUTES after posting this profile!

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Do NOT Use This Subject Line…

So, I was bantering back and forth with a woman I met on Plenty Of Fish and I do what I usually do in a second email and ask her how it’s been going on POF.  She responds that she’s been getting A LOT of “Hey Sexy” emails from guys that obviously have not even read her profile.

Read that again!!   Guys who have “not even read her profile.”

Ok, there are two things wrong here and I think you know what I’m taking about.

First, I’ve said it many times before and I’ll keep saying it until I’m BLUE in the face, do NOT use lame subject lines when emailing women online!!  And yes, “Hey Sexy” is a very LAME email subject line!  There are numerous ways to get a woman’s attention and using really bad, unoriginal subject lines is NEVER the right way to do it.

Secondly, make SURE you always mention something about her profile when emailing her.  This lets her know that you read her profile!!  The days of sending out cut and paste emails to every HOT woman you can find are long gone!  She’ll sniff it out a mile away… So, don’t even think about it.

Anyway, I then responded to this woman saying how AWESOME and original the “Hey Sexy” subject line is and why didn’t I think of that one before… Obvious SARCASM!  She laughs and now we have a meet up this weekend!

So remember, email subject lines are crucial, if not the MOST important component of your emails.  So be sure you get them right!

Want to see a complete list of Email Subject Lines I use to meet women online???

Click Here To See It Right Now

That’s all for now.  I’ll talk to you soon.

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My New Ebook Is Here!

The time has come…

And I just wanted to let you in on some exciting news!

In recent months, I’ve had a lot of guys email me wanting to know why their emails aren’t getting read and responded to when emailing women online.

As you know, this can be a BIG challenge with most men and it’s one I wanted to address specifically.

When I first started out with Online Dating years ago, I had the same exact problem. I would send out TONS of emails daily, and then wonder why I wasn’t getting any responses.

It was VERY frustrating having to see, “Unread Deleted” when I went to check the “read notification” list on any Online Dating Site.

I knew I had to get to the root of the problem!

Well, I would later find out that my emails were NOT GETTING READ in the first place!!

(Believe me, it took a lot of testing and thinking and MORE testing to figure out exactly what was going wrong.)

So after many months, I determined that it was my Email Subject Lines that were NOT doing the job of getting a woman’s attention immediately!

That makes sense because as you know, women are getting bombarded with 50 to 100 emails daily from guys all desperately vying for her time. And if a woman doesn’t see an email that compels her to open it, then she’ll miss it and move on to one that does.

So, the key here is to make sure you use Email Subject Lines that STAND OUT and force her to respond!

Well, I’m proud to say I’ve solved this problem by coming up with a HUGE list of my very BEST email subject lines. I’ve been using them for YEARS to meet Beautiful Women Online and now I’ve decided to share them with you!

I have to admit, I’m a little nervous at the thought of revealing my sneaky little weapons, but I want you to have the success that I currently enjoy with Online Dating.

And the only way to do that is to share with you what works and what works consistently, ALL THE TIME!

So here’s the deal…

I just finished up my brand new ebook called:  “101 Eye-Catching Email Subject Lines For Online Dating”

In it, I’ve included all of my very best email subject lines and I think you really should check it out.

In fact, I’m currently using a lot of the lines in this book right now to meet women online!  They are, afterall timeless – and you’ll be able to use them whenever you want… even years from now!!!

Alright so… to read more about my new ebook, just go here:

I’m VERY excited about it and I hope you will be too!!

It’s been about ten years in the making, and I’m NOT holding anything back!

Here’s the link again:

Check it out and I hope you enjoy it!

I’ll talk to you soon,


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Holiday Internet Dating Tips

Here we are approaching the end of the year… again!

Oh, how time flies when you’re busy…

Especially when you are dating plenty of attractive women online.

Recently, I have been meeting my fair share of women online, but it took a while for me to get to this point.

You see, about six months ago I broke up with my Girlfriend of two years.  It wasn’t an easy decision and these kinds of decisions are always tough to make.  It was a relationship that just wasn’t working so something had to be done.

Anyway, it took me a few months before I was ready to date online again.  BTW, I always recommend taking a little break after a serious relationship to “clear your head.”

I know some guys like to get right back out there to try and forget about “her”, but I always found it hard to do that.  One thing’s for sure is that you will NOT be in the right frame of mind if you try and date other women while still hung up on an ex!!  So, just make sure you take that into consideration.

So, as I said, we are approaching the end of the year and here in the US, that means lots and lots of HOLIDAYS!

Not a good time of year to try online dating… you say??

Well, think again!

It’s a great time to get out there and attack those online dating sites!  Think about it.  Women do NOT like to be alone during the holidays.  So, where do you think they’re going to meet guys??

Internet Dating Sites, of course!

If you haven’t gone online and sent out emails lately, then WHAT ARE YOU WAITING FOR??  Now is the time to take advantage of this situation.

In fact, I’m going to give you a very effective email subject line to use RIGHT NOW!  You know how I like to use compelling and eye-catching subject lines and this one works like a charm.  In fact, my new ebook is going to be ALL ABOUT catchy email subject lines so be sure and keep a look out for it!

So, try this…  Send an email with the following subject line…

“A Friendly Holiday Warning…”

Then, go on to warn her about something that might happen as a direct result of the Holidays.  You have to be clever here.  Be sure and make it HUMOROUS.  Maybe mention more lame guys who might be emailing her and in order to avoid them, she’d better get hitched up with you.

Think about it and see what you come up with.

Now, go online and start sending out those emails!  And be sure and let me know how it goes.

Happy Holidays!

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Is She Looking For A One Night Stand?

I was just skimming some profiles with attractive women on the site, “PlentyOffish” and I come across a woman with some bathing suit pics.  She was rather HOT.  I then go down to read her profile and I just KNEW it was coming…

It never ceases to amaze me how often I see it in these kinds of profiles.

What is it you ask?

It’s this line:

“Also, if your looking for a one night stand PLEASE don’t bother communicating with me. If I wanted a one night stand I could hit the local bar, and skip the messaging process!!”

What is it with women who post sexy pictures of them in bathing suits or skimpy clothing, and then declaring to the world that they’re “NOT LOOKING FOR A ONE NIGHT STAND?”

Well, STOP POSTING SEXY PICS and you won’t get so many messages from guys looking for one night stands!  Geez!

If you’ve read my book, “Internet Dating Mastery” you already know the SECRET clues in a woman’s profile that will tell you if she’s looking for such a relationship.  Posting revealing pics is only part of the “picture.”

There’s more to it which I won’t go into here.  I just find it funny that I always see this OVER and OVER again!

So, back to browsing profiles.  I’ll let you in on a few more secrets a little later.

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When to Write Women…

Summer is here!

Well, at least where I live.

The interesting thing is that Summer does have an effect on when to send emails to women on internet dating sites. Obviously, more women are out doing things during this time of year and are spending less time online.

One thing that does not change is the amount of time people spend online during the week at their jobs.

You wouldn’t believe how many women spend their days, bored at unfulfilling jobs reading their emails. I used to post an ad on Craigslist and the replies would come in one after another at all hours during the day on weekdays.

So, what does this mean?

It means you still want to post new ads on Craigslist, MORNINGS during the week. This is when women are going to be surfing the web looking for clever ads with unique headlines… You know, the kind you learn about in my book, “Internet Dating Mastery.”

So, keep doing that.

On weekends though, you’ll want to tone down your efforts. Summer is all about going out and enjoying your passions!

So live it up this Summer!!

And meet some attractive women, don’t let this opportunity go to waste.


If you found this article helpful, then you REALLY need to check out my TOP SECRET Online Dating Profile.  My email inbox was literally FLOODED with emails within MINUTES after posting this profile!

Click here to see it RIGHT NOW!

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Why She Won’t Respond To Your Emails…

Ok, so a lot of guys have been writing me lately on the subject of emails… more specifically, they are having trouble getting women to respond to that first email.

This is, in fact, the most common hurdle men face with online dating.

They see a profile with a woman who looks GREAT, so they send her an email.

Now, the wait begins and if they didn’t get her attention using the methods I teach, then they’ll be waiting a LONG time for a response.

Remember, women are getting bombarded with emails all day long from guys. That’s probably something you already know and it’s important to realize.

Now all you have to do is GET HER ATTENTION and do something that no other guy is doing!!!

The way to do this is with mysterious and ambiguous email subject lines.

After going through years of testing various emails and their response rate, I found that most women will look at an email subject line FIRST when deciding whether or not to respond.

That’s really the only thing making her click! The exception would of course be if she’s on a site where a pic is included with the response, such as Match.

So, be sure and include a subject line that will have her wondering…

“What does this guy mean?” or “What is he talking about?”

Here’s my all time fave:

“Hey, you’d better stop that right now!”

It works in email subject lines and profile headlines. Then you follow it up with something clever like…

“That’s right, you’d better stop wasting your time browsing around lame profiles! You’re going to fall asleep!”

Then just go right into your email..

See how easy it is?

That’s how you get her attention.

Give it a try and be SURE to let me know what happens!

If you want to discover several other ways to get a woman’s attention online then my ebook “Internet Dating Mastery” is the place to find them.

Go read it now and become an Internet Dating Master!


If you found this article helpful, then you REALLY need to check out my TOP SECRET Online Dating Profile.  My email inbox was literally FLOODED with emails within MINUTES after posting this profile!

Click here to see it RIGHT NOW!

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V-Day Sucks!

Man, I used to really HATE Valentines Day.

Well, that’s because I was almost always single when V-Day came around for it’s yearly reminder that I have nobody special in my life. It was a day I wanted to forget! Driving by Red Lobster and seeing the place packed with couples…

That was both hilarious and depressing at the same time.

Well, I’m here to say that V-Day ain’t so bad…

You see, it’s the perfect time to go online and test out some new strategies. There are so many different methods you can use and if executed perfectly, you’ll have to CHOOSE who you want to be with on Valentines Day.

Why don’t you try something like this…

As the dreaded day approaches, start sending out emails with the following subject line:

“V-Day disasters”


“Valentines Day disasters”

My open rate exploded when I used this line once!!

Where do you take it from there?


Just say something like…

“Having to spend V-Day with him instead of me.”

Then you can list the reasons why that would be a huge mistake!

And who is him, anyway?

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Secret Halloween Online Dating Tips

So, Halloween is here!

Always my favorite time of year.

When I was a kid, obviously I loved Halloween because of the pillow case full of candy I would always receive from generous neighbors.

Now it’s not so much about candy, it’s more about Halloween parties with sexy women in mind blowing SEXY costumes!

Just go out on the streets Friday night and you’ll find them… kitty outfits, devil outfits, cop girl outfits, and I’m sure we’re going to see more than a few Sarah Palin clones out there this year.

Not that I mind.

So, how does online dating fit into all of this. Well, now’s the time to send a “Halloween Party” email template to women. Chances are, you know where a Halloween party is this year and if you don’t, ask someone where one is.

Go online and send a woman something like,

Subject: “Halloween Party Wanted”

Body: “OK, you look like a person who just might know where one is in our lovely town. So, show me the way to the nearest, wildest Halloween Party and I just might give you the pleasure of escorting me.

Let me know soon! Time is running out!


There you go.

Try it out.

You just might meet someone special and have the time of your life in the process.


If you found this article helpful, then you REALLY need to check out my TOP SECRET Online Dating Profile.  My email inbox was literally FLOODED with emails within MINUTES after posting this profile!

Click here to see it RIGHT NOW!

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Make it a Habit!

One really important thing to do when you’re “online dating” is to develop a system that works for you.

Take all the components involved…

designing an eye-catching profile and tweaking it, responding to women, going out on dates, calling women, and create a system that will allow you to have all of it on autopilot.

Let’s take emailing women as an example.

You come home from work after a busy day and you decide to fire off some emails.

Well, first you need to check your inbox and see who has emailed and winked at you. Go through the winks and decide which of the women who sent them you find attractive.

Don’t wink back at them!

Instead, fire off your standard, “wink response” and see if she bites.

If not, no big deal. Now quickly move to your emails. Again, decide which ones you like and send your standard, “she emailed first” response…


That was easy!

Now, quickly check out the profiles of women who have viewed you recently.

These are women who are already interested in you… Look for ones you find attractive and send your standard, “viewed me” email to them.

If she bites fine.

If not, move on.

Decide to send a total of five emails tonight. If the amount of “viewed me” emails you just sent doesn’t total five, start doing a profile search in your area.

Find women you really like and then fire off your standard, “first email.”

You sent five emails!

You’re done for tonight!

Now go on to something more important while you wait to see the results of your efforts.

That’s it!

Online Dating on autopilot.

Make it a habit!


If you found this article helpful, then you REALLY need to check out my TOP SECRET Online Dating Profile.  My email inbox was literally FLOODED with emails within MINUTES after posting this profile!

Click here to see it RIGHT NOW!

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