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Taming “Needy” Behaviors.

You know I often talk about how important it is to avoid needy behavior when dealing with women online.  Well, here’s a letter from a subscriber that illustrates what can happen when you come on too strong:


I gotta problem. I met a woman a couple of weeks ago, and what a woman! She is just amazing and I cant get her out of my head. We have only met twice so far but spend over an hour on the phone very night. The first date was dinner at the yacht club and the 2nd we spent most of the night on the beach talking and drinking champagne. Sounds pretty good eh! So what’s the problem? Well, her ex really screwed her up. She’s not given me all the details yet but the result is that she has major trust issues and she shares she has ‘lost’ herself and does not know who she is or what she wants out of life anymore. She says she sees me as a great friend but does not know if she wants another relationship. Her last relationship was a marriage of about 20 years. I know it crazy but I think she is the one! How do I get her to break through her current negativity and realize that not all men will damage her in the way that her ex has.

My head is telling to give this woman a wide berth and look elsewhere but I just can’t because I would wonder what might have been if I stuck it out.

CY Australia

(My Response)


Ok, first of all… SLOW DOWN!

You need to take a deep breath here and give her some room to think.  I see two big problems here that stand out:

“but spend over an hour on the phone very night.”

It’s great that you two have a solid connection and that things seem to be going well, but you don’t want to be spending hours on the phone every night.

Are you familiar with attraction theory?  Things like giving her the gift of missing you and avoiding neediness?  When you come on too strong and suffocate women, it can lead to this…

“She says she sees me as a great friend but does not know if she wants another relationship.”

Bingo!  That tells you something right there.  She will rationalize it in her mind that she’s “not ready” to move onto someone else and her past relationship does factor in, but; you still need to do things right when it comes to building attraction.

Here’s what you should do… no contact for three days!  I mean no phone calls, texts, nothing!  See what happens.  I’m betting she will come to you.

Try and be patient and take things more slowly.  Let her know that you are still dating other women, which is what you should be doing anyway.

If she is “the one.”  You’ll know soon enough.


Remember, any time you display needy behavior, it lowers your value and a woman will thus become less attracted to you.

So what’s the answer??  Don’t do it!!  Always raise your perceived value in her eyes.  That’s the key to becoming successful with Online Dating.

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Two For One Special!

Well, it’s that time of year again!

I know, it always comes up so quickly!

It’s the end of the year, which for most around the world means Holidays and New Year’s festivities.  I also like to take this time every year to send a message to my valuable subscribers… and that would be you!

I’ll make it brief this time.

It’s been a pretty good year for myself and I hope it’s been great for you as well and you’re still meeting plenty of women online.

If you haven’t been putting all your efforts into Online Dating, now is definitely the time to do so.  There are more women than ever joining Online Dating sites EVERY single day and I continue to be amazed at just how many there really are.

Sites like Match, POF, eHarmony, and OkCupid are still going strong!  And if you’ve been using my material, I’m sure you’re starting to realize just how powerful it can be when using these sites to meet women online.

As you know, I’m currently working on a new Online Dating Video Course and the feedback I recently received from my subscribers has been incredible to say the least!  I really appreciate it!  Some of you are struggling with things I really hadn’t considered.

Well don’t worry… we’re going to put an END to those frustrations when I get this course done.  You can count on it!  Look for it to be released in a few months.

As for now, I’d like to offer you a nice little bonus.

From now until the end of this month you can get both my ebooks;  “Internet Dating Mastery” AND “101 Eye-catching Email Subject Lines for Online Dating” for the price of one!!

That’s right, get both books for just $27!!

It’s my gift to you for being a valuable subscriber and for helping me keep this little passion of mine going so strong!

So, just click the link below to claim your bundle:

I hope you enjoy them.

Happy Holidays to you and we’ll talk soon!


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Internet Dating Tips From Women


I just ran across an article that’s called, “The Ten Commandments of Online Dating.”  Now, I normally don’t pay much attention to Online Dating advice written by women FOR guys, but this article was rather interesting.

Check it out here:  Online Dating Article

Ok, I know, not really earth shattering… BUT let’s do a little recap anyway, just for fun!

1)  Thou shall not act too cool to care.  Well, actually acting like you really aren’t into someone can work in your favor.  As you know, nothing can kill your chances faster than being too needy when trying to meet women online.  But, you need to show interest initially otherwise she won’t know you exist.  But save the “too cool for school” act for when she’s already attracted to you.

2)  Thou shall not search online for a new mate until the present mate is out of the picture.  This one is obvious.  Be sure and have your head together before going to meet women online.  I talk more about this in Chapter 1 of my ebook Internet Dating Mastery.

3)  Thou shall not be long winded.  This one is very interesting.  Note that she says being brief and to the point shows confidence!  Well, we know how important confidence is when attracting women.  Now you know why so many guys tell you to keep those emails brief and to the point!

4)  Thou shall not forget to use the spell checker.  Obviously you want to use good spelling.  Nothing to add here.

5)  Thou shall not act Creepy McCreepy.  Yes, don’t act creepy when meeting online.  If you follow my advice, you shouldn’t have ANY problems in this area.

6)  Thou shall not pick a dumb username.   Now, when it comes to usernames; you just need to avoid LAME ones.  There is no super secret username that’s going to make her want to jump you.  They don’t exist.  So don’t spend too much time trying to come up with one.  BUT, don’t use BAD ones.

7)  Thou shall not e- lie.  Don’t lie about your age or height in your profiles.  OK, add one inch to your height but THAT’s IT!  Remember, the goal is to meet her in person as soon as possible.  What are you going to do when you meet her and she sees you’re 10 yrs older than the thought?  Not good!

8)  Thou shall not be late on the first date.  Being late is OK, but not too late.  Don’t be early.  But, don’t fret about this one.

9)  Thou shall not act Creepy McCreepy.  See above.

10)  Thou shall not pretend you fell off the face of the earth.  I actually totally agree with this one.  If you aren’t feeling it, let her know.  You don’t want to waste her time or yours.

OK, I hope you found this recap informative and entertaining.  If you want to learn more about meeting women online, check out this free preview of my book here.  What do you think about this article?  Let me know in the comments below.

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