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More On Writing Dating Profiles

Let me ask you…

Are you STRUGGLING at meeting women online?

You are?

Well, guess what?

You aren’t alone.

The fact is, MOST men fail at online dating and quit within WEEKS after posting their first online dating profile.

Well, why is that?

Are all women on Internet dating sites that mean? Do they just NOT like men at all?

No, obviously that isn’t the case! After all, we all know some guys that are having a LOT of success with online dating. You’ve heard about them… right?

“Dude!!! I’m getting laid left and right from women I met on Match.com. What’s your problem??? It’s so easy!”

Well, one of two things is going on there. Either these guys are lying, or they know something the rest don’t. Maybe they searched the net for dating profile examples for men, and found the “perfect dating ad.” Maybe they all look like Brad Pitt.

Well, I’m here to tell you that when it comes to having success with meeting women online, you HAVE to have TWO things right. Screw up either one of them, and you will NOT be meeting ANY women!

The first is your dating profile. This needs to be solid. It needs to really show your personality! The days of laundry lists and facts are LONG GONE! (In fact, I’m not sure these kinds of dating profiles were ever successful.) Women are drawn to EMOTIONS, and in particular mystery and intrigue.

Why do you think romance novels are so popular? Women can’t buy them up fast enough because they CAN’T resist them!

So, making your profile convey a sense of mystery is paramount and you MUST learn how to do it right.

No…copying dating profile examples for men off the internet is NOT going to cut it. Women want to meet YOU, not some guy you are pretending to be.

The next thing you want to do is convey a sense of confidence. Use assertive, commanding language in your profile, BUT don’t overdo it.

Confidence is sexy, cockiness is a turn off!

Finally, show some humor! Online dating should NOT be serious. Show her you have a clever sense of humor. It’s always great to end your profile by poking fun at other guys on internet dating sites.

So, now you know how to write an eye-catching, compelling online dating profile. That’s the all important FIRST step to online dating success.

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The BEST Online Dating Photos

So, what are the BEST photos to use in your internet dating profile?

Well, first lets talk about the importance of having good photos and why it’s important.

Imagine that there is a very attractive but lonely woman sitting at her computer and she goes online to search for dating profiles in her area. Bam!! The search results magically appear on her screen. Now, what is the first thing she sees when she looks at a guy’s profile?

Right….  His picture!

See, when she’s looking through her search results, a picture is what’s going to get her attention, at least initially. That’s why it’s VERY important to have a good “Main” picture. Once she sees your pictures, THEN she’ll go on to read your headline and the rest of your profile. You must make a GREAT first impression.

Now, there’s all kinds of advice out there concerning Internet Dating photos and which ones to use. Well, simply put, there’s a right way to approach profile photos and a wrong way. And you want to do it RIGHT the first time.

Now, first let’s go back to what women find most attractive about a guy. Without a doubt, it’s his confidence or attitude and his sense of humor or personality.

Well, we can’t really convey any of those things in our pictures that’s why we use our headlines and the body of our profile to convey our confidence and awesome personality.

OK, so what else do women find attractive?

A man who has STRONG passions, a GREAT lifestyle and is on his mission in life!

Bingo!!

THAT, we can show in our pictures!

So, when you first start building your online dating profile, you need to keep this in mind. Ask yourself, “How can I show myself really living it up in my photos?”

Well, the answer is you need to include photos of yourself out enjoying your passions. If you love snowboarding, include some pictures of yourself on the slopes with some friends. If you enjoy sail boating, include some pictures of you out on a boat smiling under the sun.

See where I’m going with this?

Women find men with passions and hobbies VERY attractive and this is why you want to show these things in your pictures.

So, throw in five pictures in your profile. Two of them clearly showing your face and the other three showing you out enjoying your passions.

Why only five?

Because you really don’t need any more than that. If you want to include more, that’s fine but really five is enough. In addition to demonstrating that you have passions and a great life, you also want to show that you know how to take care of yourself and have good fashion sense. This is why you include two pictures of your face and make sure one of them is your main picture.

Remember, women are different from men.

All most men want to see is a HOT, SEXY woman who is fit and attractive. So, as long as we see that in her pictures, we’re good.

But women want to see a man with a healthy lifestyle, passions and lots of friends. Do you ever wonder why women always have LOTS of pictures of them out enjoying their passions? You’ll see traveling pictures, hobby pictures, group photo shots at parties and weddings, etc. That’s because women find these things very important and they make the mistake of thinking men find this attractive in them.

Well, that’s not necessarily the case.

Men are more visual and want to see a pretty face and sexy body first and a fun lifestyle second. Women want to see a fun lifestyle and a guy with passions and plenty of friends first and a cute face and sexy body second.

Make sense?

Good!

Now, a few more things about pictures. It’s best to have a friend or family member take pictures of you and then have a female friend judge them. Make sure she is being honest. That’s the best way to get good pictures of yourself! Don’t post them on “rate me” sites. You won’t get an accurate judgment there.

Should you have a professional photographer take pictures of you?

No, I don’t recommend that. I’ve asked several women about that over the years and the consensus is that it makes you seem like you’re trying too hard.

Remember, you want to be yourself in your pictures. If you wear a suit and tie all the time, then show that in your pictures. If you mostly wear jeans and a T-shirt, then show that. Casual is OK!

This should be obvious, but don’t ever include nude pictures of yourself or pics of you with your shirt off flexing in the bathroom mirror. That’s downright cheesy!! And take those pictures with a good camera, not your cell phone!

OK, so that is the formula you’ll want to follow regarding online dating photos. So, go out and post five good pictures and see what happens. I guarantee that you’ll be surprised!

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How To Respond To A Woman’s Internet Dating Profile

So, you see an amazingly HOT woman on Match.com.  She has great photos and a personality to boot!

She has a great sense of humor and a very dynamic personality.  You can tell she’d be a great addition to your already fulfilling life.  She also lives reasonably close to you.

You just HAVE to respond to her!!!

But how?

As you can imagine, she’s probably getting 50 to 60 emails a day from every guy within a 500-mile radius. She opens her inbox to see a barrage of boring emails with subject lines that all looks the same.

“Hey baby! You’re so fine!”

“Hey, nice guy here. I think you’re cute!”

“Oh my GOD! You’re so beautiful! Please respond to this email!”

“Baby, I want to make you my love muffin!”

And the emails get worse and worse. This is the reality of a beautiful woman on an internet dating site.

And this is GREAT news!  Why?

Because, you are going to be the real MAN that stands out and gets her attention. You’ve already seen her profile and now you MUST find a way to get her eyes on YOU.

How do you do that?

It’s simple.

Have a GREAT subject line in your email. If you don’t have a great subject line then your email will NEVER get read. Simple as that. That’s why we have to put good subject lines in our response.

THIS IS THE MOST IMPORTANT PART OF RESPONDING TO ONLINE DATING PROFILES!!!

Now, I like to use subject lines that are ambiguous. Ones that leave her wondering, “What is he talking about?”

Women love a good mystery and nothing is more mysterious then a subject line that has her wondering why you wrote it.  I might write something like:

“Oh my GOD! What are you doing?”

It doesn’t get more mysterious then that! When she sees an email like this in her inbox, you’d better bet that she’s going to open it.

Now, you need to be sure and explain it in your email to her. If you don’t she’ll feel tricked and move on to someone else.  There are many different ways to go here.

I might start off my email like this:

“I mean, here you are sitting there with 50 emails in your inbox and it took you this long to get to mine? I just might forgive you if you’re up for a challenge. “

Then, just continue your email. See how easy that was?

The most important thing is to get her attention right off the bat. Once you do that, you’re in.

So, write down a list of ten creative, eye-catching, and ambiguous subject lines similar to the example above. Then come up with ways to start off an email using each subject line. Once you have your arsenal, you’re ready to respond to all the hot women in your area.

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How To Get Your Online Dating Emails Opened

Let me ask you a few questions…

When you first open up your email inbox, do you instantly know which messages to delete?

If so, how do you know which ones belong in the trash?

Well, if you’re like me, as soon as you go to your inbox you check each email’s subject line, that is if you don’t recognize who it’s from right off the bat.

The subject line will tell you right away whether or not it’s junk mail. If I see anything having to do with Viagra, Cialis, Nigeria, Awards, Gift Cards or Adult sites, then I delete it right away.

So, this means that when you send out emails, the subject line is SUPER important and it must be able to get a woman’s attention in some way if she’s going to open it.

This is especially true since attractive women on internet dating sites get tons of emails from guys every day. These women are just looking for a reason to delete your email right away and if that happens, it’s game over before it starts.

Well, as it turns out, there is one particularly simple and straightforward subject line that WILL get your emails opened every time.

Before I reveal what it is, think about all the subject lines that get your attention. What is it that draws you in and makes you think, “I have to see what this is about!”

Would it be something like:

“Look here, more free stuff!” or “OPEN ME RIGHT NOW!”

Yah, those worked a long time ago, but now, you just delete them.

Well, what if you opened up your email inbox and saw a subject line that simply read:

“bad news…”?

Whoa! That’s right.

You would want to open it right away!

“What do you mean “bad news”? Oh no! I better see what’s wrong!”

You see, that is the subject line that will open emails more quickly then any others.

When you think about it, it makes sense. If you were to open your email inbox and see a subject line that read, “bad news…”, you would immediately think it was from a friend or family member telling you some distressing news. And you would HAVE to open it right away.

So, what are a few good ways to apply this subject line to internet dating? Particularly, sending emails to very attractive women? Well, there are many different ways to do it.

So, I go online and find a profile of a woman who is very attractive and I decide I want to contact her. I write in my subject line:

“bad news…”

Now, I don’t just leave it like that then write something totally unrelated to the subject line. That would be lame and she would delete my email right away.

So I might start it off like this:

“It’s come to my attention that you’re about to reply to the guy above me in your inbox. Did you know that he’s known for proposing to women on the first date? Yes, well good thing I’m here to stop you from making a HUGE mistake! Anyway…”

Then, just go on with your email. See, first I catch her attention with my subject line then I turn it into something humorous at the beginning of my email. I got her attention then put a smile on her face.

This kind of response is GOLD and works for me every time! So, give it a try. Come up with a few subject lines similar to “bad news…” Here are a few off the top of my head:

“Distressing news…”

“I’m afraid I have some bad news…”

“This is unfortunate…”

Then, craft an email similar to the example I used above. Start off explaining the subject line by making it into something humorous. In fact, just use this template:

“It’s come to my attention that you’re about to reply to the guy above me in your inbox. Did you know that he’s known for (insert typical mistake guys on dating sites make)? Yes, well good thing I’m here to stop you from making a HUGE mistake! Anyway…”

And there you go!

Remember, getting those emails opened is crucial to your internet dating success. Once you have that down, you’ll be an Internet Dating Master in no time!!!

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How To Get A Girl’s Number Online

If I were to ask you why you’re involved in online dating, what would be your answer?

I’m guessing it would be…to meet women! To meet women as quickly as possible! You aren’t signed up to an online dating site paying $30 a month to meet pen pals!!

Right?

You want to get a woman’s phone number and then move things out of the virtual world fast!

Now, there are certain steps that MUST be followed when meeting women online. First you have to write up a great profile that really shows your confidence and sense of humor.

Then you have to start responding to other profiles using eye-catching subject lines that GET ATTENTION.

Next you start up email correspondence to build trust and rapport, and then finally you go for her phone number.

Now, when is the “right” time to ask for her number? Well, the answer is simple…when the time is right. You see, when you’ve been involved with internet dating as long as I have, you start to get a feel for the right time to ask for a woman’s phone number.

Let me explain this…

Each step in email correspondence has a purpose. The purpose of the first email is to get her attention and let her know you are a desirable guy. After all, if you can’t get her attention in the first place then you won’t be able to get anything going at all.

The purpose of the second, third and possibly fourth email is to build trust and rapport with a woman. You have to earn her trust! This is very important if you want to, not only get her phone number, but also actually meet her in person.

If you try and go for the phone number too soon, you’ll be shot down quickly.

Now, why is that?

Simple, she doesn’t trust you. You’re coming across as “just another guy” trying to get her number too fast without really getting to know her.

Now, is it possible to get her phone number in one or two emails? Of course it is.

I’ll bet you know a guy who has done that. I know I have. But, think back to what happened when this guy tried to meet her in person. Didn’t go so smoothly, did it? In fact, I’m willing to bet that he had a VERY hard time trying to set up a meet with her and if and when he did, she most likely flaked on him.

Hmm, why did this happen?

Because she didn’t trust him!

He skipped some of the crucial steps.

This is why you must earn her trust and start to build a story together.

So, how many emails does it take to do this?

Well, it depends. Every woman is different. Some women will be more open and get comfortable with you right away. Others are more reserved and really like to exchange a lot of emails before giving away their phone number. Unfortunately, these kinds of women aren’t going to get the chance to meet you because you’re a busy guy and you don’t have time to be writing back and forth all day.

I’m happy to say that MOST women WILL give you their phone number in three to five emails if you effectively earn their trust.

Now, what’s the best way to earn a woman’s trust?

Easy, just be yourself and have a real conversation with her. Don’t try to be “cool” and use pickup tactics. A quality woman will see through that every time. Talk to her as you would a friend but MAKE SURE you convey your confidence and let your sense of humor shine! If you do that, you’ll know when to ask for her number. It should ALWAYS be after three to five emails. No more, no less. Following this procedure will get you what I call a quality phone number.

A quality phone number is a number from a woman who not only trusts you but is INTO you and anxious to meet you. She won’t play games when trying to set up a meet and most importantly, she WON’T flake on you!

So, next time you email a woman, keep this in mind. First get her attention in your initial email. Then spend three to five emails getting to know her and building her trust. Once you have a quality phone number, you’ll know that she’s just DYING to meet you and getting a woman in person is the main reason why we’re dating online.

Right?

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Online Dating Headlines That Get Attention

So, you already know that getting an attractive woman to open your emails is the first crucial step to online dating success. Hot women get bombarded with anywhere between 50 to 100 emails a day from desperate suitors trying to get their attention.

You also already know that your subject line is very important when it comes to getting her to open and read your emails. Typical subject lines like, “Hey baby” aren’t going to cut it because that’s what most other guys are doing.

Now, I was doing some more brain storming the other day and suddenly I came up with another awesome way to get a woman to open my emails. The email subject line I came up with was, “oh no!” That’s it! It simply read, “oh no!” Now, what is a woman going to do when she sees an email with that subject line in her inbox?

She’s going to READ IT FIRST!

Why is that?

Because she has to see what I meant by “oh no.” Did something terrible happen? Is there some sort of terrible news she hasn’t heard yet? My god, what happened?

Well, I think you can see where I’m going with this.

Gentlemen, we have a new subject line for our arsenal.

So, how can we apply this to our internet dating emails? Let’s brainstorm. Here are a few ways to follow up this subject line:

Oh no! You are about to make a huge mistake!

Oh no! Why are you wasting so much time with these guys?

Oh no! All these boring emails from guys just looking for a one-night stand! What’s the deal?

On no! The guy above you is married and looking for an online fling!

So, we have many different directions we can go with this subject line. Let’s try this:

Subject: Oh no!

Email: Here we have a beautiful Sunday morning and you’re stuck wading through an ocean of boring emails from guys who JUST AREN’T YOUR TYPE! I mean, I know a guy with a profile headline that reads; “single cool dude for big booty girl” really gets your juices flowing but it’s time to take a break! Your day is about to get a whole lot better. Anyway…

There you go! Just a rough draft but I guarantee it will get the job done!

You take the subject line, “oh no” and then you address it in the first part of your email making it clever and humorous. I like to bust guys on dating sites, especially ones that have horrible profile headlines like the one above.

Then just continue on with your email.

In the example above, you’ll want to send it to her on a Sunday morning and of course you can tweak it to fit your situation any way you want. In fact, here’s another great tip.

Go on any free online dating site and search through the “men seeking women” profiles. Find a profile with a REALLY lame headline and refer to it in your email to a woman on that site. Chances are she’s seen it and she’ll laugh her ass off when she reads your email.

Go for it! Give it a try and I guarantee your emails WILL get opened quickly!

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The Perfect Time To Meet For A Date

OK, so you’ve finally done it…

You wrote up an awesome online dating profile, sent emails to all the attractive women you can find and you finally found a woman you REALLY Dig! Now, it’s time to make the move…

It’s time to meet her in person!

Now, I’m assuming you did all the right things when emailing her. You built plenty of rapport and got her VERY excited to meet you. This is very important when meeting women online. If you made the mistake of “half-assing” the whole thing, you’ll find yourself with a woman who doesn’t have any desire to meet you. And the inevitable game of phone tag begins…And you never meet her in person.

Now, let’s assume it’s going to happen. During your phone conversation you DID remember to set up a meet… Right? That’s why you are doing online dating! To meet women live and in person.

You don’t want to get caught in a frustrating game of “trying to nail her down.” If that’s what is happening, then chances are you did something wrong in your emails and she doesn’t REALLY want to meet you.

So, to make sure that doesn’t happen, you HAVE to nail down a time and place for that first date at the END of the FIRST phone call. Read that again to make sure it sinks in! DO NOT get stuck doing phone tag. That sucks!

So, when is a good time to meet her? Is there a perfect time and day? Yes, there is. And that time is…as soon as possible!

Do you understand what I’m saying? You want to get her off emails and phone calls and IN PERSON as quickly as you can so you can start having face to face conversations. You don’t want to waste time and neither does she.

What I’m saying is, you need to set up a meet within a few days of that first phone call. I don’t care if it’s on a weekend or not. You may have heard some guys tell you to avoid weekends to give the impression that you are busy and have a life.

This is BAD ADVICE! I know from experience because I used to play those games. And what happened? I ended up screwing myself. If you try to delay things for any reason, you’ll KILL all the momentum you built up in emails and phone calls. It’s SUPER important to keep it going. That’s why you want to meet up as quickly as possible. You’re a man and you take the lead on things. You call the shots and you get things moving! This is how you want to do it. Trust me!

So, next time you meet a woman off the internet, take it offline as SOON as possible!

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How To Respond When She “Rejects” You

So, you’ve sent an email to a woman you REALLY dig. It was one of your BEST emails, one that will surely catch her attention. You wait a few days for her response and… nothing.

You wait a few more days and still no response.  So, you send her your standard, “no response” email. She’s sure to respond to that one.  Once again, you wait for her response. Then a few days later, FINALLY, there’s her email in your inbox!

She responded! You read her message which says,

“Hi, so sorry about not getting back to you. Things have been really hectic around here. Unfortunately, I don’t think we are a good match.”

Take care,

(name)

Ah, there it is… The “take care” message that so many women send. I would swear they all belong to some underground woman’s group that came up with this “take care” message as their standard response. Kind of like a woman’s standard fake number she hands out at bars and clubs.

If you’ve been involved in online dating for any length of time, I’m sure you’ve seen this response.  So, how do you respond?  Well, here’s what you DON’T do.  You definitely want to AVOID getting all mad and sending her an angry response.

Here’s one that women get all the time:

“You know, I don’t know how you can reject someone you haven’t even met in person. You don’t even know me. We could have been a great match. Next time, why don’t you give a guy a chance..”

There it is. Angry response from angry guy!  What does the above message say about angry guy?

It says,

“I’m angry, rejected and I’m putting too much importance on what you think of me. I don’t have a whole lot going on in my life so I was hoping you would like me. I feel so bad about you rejecting me that I’m going to try and get you back by shaming you.”

See, how silly that is? No woman on an internet dating site should have that kind of power over you. It doesn’t do any good to get angry and try and “get her back.” That’s a waste of time and energy.

Instead, send her something like this:

“Hey, no problem! I’ve got thick skin. Anyway, good luck out there. You’re going to need it.”

Says all the right things about you and it’s rather ambiguous with the “you’re going to need it” comment at the end. She’ll be dying to know what you mean by that… it might even get her coming back to you.

Try it and let me know what happens.

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How To Find Your Type Online

Have you ever been on a date with a woman you met online and you just didn’t “feel it?”

I know I have. In fact, when I was first starting out with online dating I was getting increasingly frustrated at my inability to meet one of the “good ones.” I would go on date after date with VERY attractive women only to ultimately fail at making a true, lasting connection with most of them.

Well, I knew something had to change. Was it me? Was I just not compatible with any women? No, that couldn’t be the case! After all, I had been in relationships with women before and things worked just fine. So why is it so HARD to meet the right woman from the Internet?

Well, that’s when it hit me like a ton of bricks… Screening!! I’m not screening correctly. In other words, I’m not really seeing a woman for who she is in her profile. If I’m not seeing what she’s really about before meeting her, then chances are, we’ll have a hard time making a connection in person. I need to screen women based on their profiles before I email them. Then my results will improve!

So, I had to take a long look at myself and figure out whom I really want. What are the qualities I most admire in a woman? Was there anyone I dated in the past where things really clicked? What was she like?

Well, based on my experiences, I was able to come up with a woman who is JUST my type. She has to be attractive with dark features. OK, that’s the physical stuff but there needs to be something deeper. She needs to have a certain personality type that’s different from mine. She must be my opposite.

Wow, that’s it!! All the women I’ve ever dated have been my opposite in personality type. Doesn’t really make sense but that’s when things worked out the best. I’m more of a quiet, analytical kind of guy. Well, I’m an engineer so that makes sense. Most of the women I’ve dated who I really liked were more outgoing and spontaneous. I always like a woman with a sense of adventure and creative flair. Well, then that is exactly what I need to be looking for online!

After I realized it was more about personality than anything else, I learned how to screen women in the correct way. Here I was focusing on trivial things like common interests and hobbies, when those things really didn’t matter at all.

Ever gone on a date with a woman who was JUST LIKE YOU. You thought she was your soul mate because she also loved sports, Volkswagens and rock climbing but it still didn’t work out??

Well, here’s why. She wasn’t your opposite in personality type. Opposites compliment each other and that’s why they get along so well.

So, next time you go online looking for HOT babes, you need to put things like hobbies and common interests on the back burner. Unfortunately, most Internet dating sites use these things to match people, which is totally wrong. Instead, really look at her profile and determine her personality. It’s not as tough as you think. Look at her writing style. Look at her pictures. If you look closely enough you will finally “see” her.

Once you become good at screening for your type, you’ll become a true Internet dating master in no time!

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If you found this article helpful, then you REALLY need to check out my TOP SECRET Online Dating Profile.  My email inbox was literally FLOODED with emails within MINUTES after posting this profile!

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