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The Secret To Attracting Women Online

Let me ask you…

Are you STRUGGLING at meeting women online?

You are?

Well, guess what?  You aren’t alone.  The fact is, MOST men fail at online dating and quit within WEEKS after posting their first online dating profile.

Well, why is that?  Are all women on Internet dating sites that mean?  Do they just NOT like men at all?

No, obviously that isn’t the case!  After all, we all know some guys that are having a LOT of success with online dating.  You’ve heard about them… right?

Dude!!!  I’m getting laid left and right from women I met on Match.com.  What’s your problem???  It’s so easy!

Well, one of two things is going on there.  Either these guys are lying, or they know something the rest don’t.  Maybe they searched the net for dating profile examples for men, and found the “perfect dating ad.”

Maybe they all look like Brad Pitt.

Well, I’m here to tell you that when it comes to having success with meeting women online, you HAVE to have TWO things right.  Screw up either one of them and you will NOT be meeting ANY women!

The first is your dating profile.  This needs to be solid.  It needs to really show your personality.  The days of laundry lists and facts are LONG GONE!  (In fact, I’m not sure these kinds of dating profiles were ever successful.)

Women are drawn to EMOTIONS and in particular mystery and intrigue.

Why do you think romance novels are so popular?  Women can’t buy them up fast enough because they CAN’T resist them.

So, making your profile convey a sense of mystery is paramount and you MUST learn how to do it right.  No, copying dating profile examples for men off the internet is NOT going to cut it.  Women want to meet YOU, not some guy you are pretending to be.

The next thing you want to do is convey a sense of confidence.  Use assertive, commanding language in your profile, BUT don’t overdo it.  Confidence is sexy, cockiness is a turn off!

Finally, show some humor!  Online dating should NOT be serious.  Show her you have a clever sense of humor.  It’s always great to end your profile by poking fun at other guys on internet dating sites.

So, now you know how to write an eye-catching, compelling online dating profile.  That’s the all important FIRST step to online dating success.

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If you found this article helpful, then you REALLY need to check out my TOP SECRET Online Dating Profile.  My email inbox was literally FLOODED with emails within MINUTES after posting this profile!

Click here to see it RIGHT NOW!

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How To Write A Killer Online Dating Profile

Let me ask you…

Are You Frustrated with online dating?

If you’re like most guys, you are.  You’re tired of not meeting ATTRACTIVE women from online dating sites.

I mean, who wants to pay $30 a month with no results?  Right?

Believe me, I know how frustrating it can be… I’ve been there and I struggled with it for years.  I thought I would NEVER be able to meet the woman of my dreams online.

When I first started online dating, women were ignoring ALL my profiles and emails.  In fact, I would often send out 10 to 20 emails A DAY and get NO responses.  It was crazy!  And I wasn’t exactly the kind of guy to go out and approach hot women in bars and clubs so online dating was my only option at the time.

Well, one day everything turned around for me.  After lots of painful trial and error, I realized that I was making the SAME mistakes over and over again.  And once I stopped making these mistakes, I was meeting women left and right.  In fact, I actually had to STOP sending out emails because my plate was full.  That’s how dramatically things changed for me!

As it turns out, most guys are still making these mistakes and they don’t even know it.  It’s no wonder most guys give up within a MONTH after signing up to online dating sites.

What are these mistakes?

1)       First, they write bland/boring dating profiles.  Their profiles just don’t stand out.  They aren’t using compelling headlines and they aren’t showing any emotion!  They just list facts and the end result is a stale, boring profile with NO excitement.

2)      Second, they don’t know how to email women in a way that GETS THEIR ATTENTION.  Again, their subject lines don’t stand out and they don’t get how to communicate the Secret Language that women respond to.  If you don’t know how to email women the right way, you WON’T succeed at online dating.

3)      Third, they don’t know how to respond to women who email THEM first.  This is also critical!  Most guys get all excited and totally screw it up.  When women email you, it’s a totally different dynamic and you HAVE to know how to handle it.

So, those are the three main online dating mistakes.

Now, how do you write a dating profile that compels women to respond???

Well, first let’s look at how NOT to write a dating profile.  When I first got into online dating, I wrote up a profile that I’m not really proud of.  In fact, it’s downright embarrassing.  But, I need to show it to you so you’ll understand.  Just promise me you won’t laugh… OK?

Ok, here it is:

Subject:  “Nice Guy Here!!”

Body:  “Hello out there!  Well, I just joined this site and I’m not too sure what to write but here goes.  I’m just a simple guy.  I like hanging out with my friends and traveling to cool places.  I’ve found that it’s so hard to meet women in my area so I thought I’d try online dating.  Anyway, it’s always so hard to write stuff about myself so if you like what you see, maybe we can go out on a date sometime.

(Please I’m not very confident and NEED your approval.  Will you love me??)”

Ok, I didn’t really include that last line, but I might as well have.  So, there it is.  Painful, I know…

That was my first really lame attempt at writing a dating profile.

So, what’s wrong with this profile?  Well, first of all it looks like it’s coming from a kid and not a man.  There’s no real confidence there and no humor, at least not intentional.  It’s like I’m trying to seek her approval in every line.  I’m unsure about myself, I’m uncomfortable in my own skin, basically I’m just a total wuss.  That’s NOT attractive to women.

Ok, so how do you do it right?

Well, I’ve come up with what I call my Secret Formula for writing dating profiles.  It’s a formula I’ve been using for years and it NEVER fails me.

1)      First, you must start off humorous.  Get her emotions going right off the bat.  This does two things; it gets her attention right away AND it makes her want to read more.

2)      Second, you need to convey your confidence.  Use strong, assertive language as you state who you are and what you want making NO apologies for either.  This will be in the middle part of your profile.

3)      Finally, you finish off with more humor.  This gets her laughing again and you get out on a high note.  Always good for showmanship. You do this by telling a brief funny story or my favorite, make fun of other guys on the site.  I might write something like:  “Believe me you want nothing to do with the guy below me, he still lives with his Mother.”   Or something like that.

So, that is my Secret Formula for writing dating profiles.

Now, get out there and write your own dating profile using this formula.  I guarantee you’ll start seeing results FAST!

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If you found this article helpful, then you REALLY need to check out my TOP SECRET Online Dating Profile.  My email inbox was literally FLOODED with emails within MINUTES after posting this profile!

Click here to see it RIGHT NOW!

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Interesting Online Dating Article

So, I was browsing online dating articles and came across a very interesting one called, “Online dating sites are a treasure trove for scientists.”

Check it out here:

Online Dating Article

Some highlights:

“Men most often make the first move, sending that first “wink” or e-mail. They’re also more likely to respond to women’s queries and quicker to write back. Women are more choosy; in one study, they responded to only 16 percent of messages. And they take longer to respond.”

(This is why your emails must STAND OUT and get attention! This study claims women respond to only 16% of messages. With those odds, you had better get noticed!)

“Appearance matters. Men say a photograph is the dominant predictor of whether they’ll connect. Women like photographs but also value the self-descriptive narrative in profiles.

(Of course men choose women based on photos, we’re MEN! But… women aren’t as focused on appearances, it’s more about your profile! This is why it’s important to craft a clever, compelling dating profile like the ones I provide in my Ebook; “Internet Dating Mastery.”)

“What’s attractive? Men who look “genuine,” “extroverted” but not “overly warm or kind;” women who look “feminine, “high in self-esteem” and “not selfish.”

(I always recommend including photos of yourself out with friends, as it will make you look more “extroverted.” Now why would women NOT want guys to look “overly warm or kind?” Women may see that as appearing desperate, or not being very confident. It’s crucial that you don’t make these mistakes.)

Anyway, good read. Check it out.

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